Make Sense – Mind

Make Sense - Mind

Would you like every conversation you have to leave you and the other participants inspired, with greater clarity, and with new insights?

Imagine if you had a group of people who you could turn to and they were able to bring greater clarity to your challenges and add creativity and new perspectives in a helpful way.

By playing Make Sense you will learn how to communicate in a way that facilitates precisely that.  It is a learning tool on your way to embodying an all-win communication.  Oh, and did I mention… It is fun and brings out insights you never knew you had.

How to Play It

4 levels

2 – 5-ish players

Read the general instructions here below and then click on the + sign next to Level 1 to expand and read its content.  There you will find the specific instructions for that level and at the bottom of the instructions you will see a flash card.  Click on it to start with the first question of the game.

General Instructions

The purpose is to learn to listen past judgement for what is the key, the essence, the important, what resonates with you and makes sense and then render it back in ones own words with clarity.

For each level there will be five cards picked.  You start by turning over the first card.  Every person participating will interact personally with every other person participating, one-on-one. 

So, if there are three persons participating,  for any particular card you will follow the instructions twice, one time with each of the two other persons.  If there are five persons participating you will follow the same instructions four times, with the four other participants.

Once everyone has finished you take the next Level 1 card.

After you have finished five cards of a particular level you move onto the next level and pick five cards from the next level cards.

LEVEL 1 INSTRUCTIONS

One person follows the instructions on the first card.  The card will ask them to explain something.

The other person listens carefully and then tries to extract the kernel of the message in their own words and give it back to the first person.  Try to explain it in your own words as much as you can and as clearly as you can.

If the first person agrees that this is in fact exactly what they were saying, then they will say: “That´s it.”

If the first person does not agree with the message they will then try to explain again and the second person will try again to give them the kernel of the message, until they both agree on what is being said.

Example:  Persons A and B are interacting:

A:  Answers the question

B:  Restates clearly the message

A:  If clear: “That’s it”

After you get a “That’s it” you switch roles and now you explain to the other person what the first card is asking you to explain.  Now the other person will need to restate it until they get a “That’s it”.

Now you move onto another player, still following the question on the first card, until you have gone through all the players.

Then, you all use the second card in the five Level 1 cards and repeat the process.

Once all 5 cards have been used you can move onto Level 2.

(There are 10 cards just in case you want to keep going.)

PICK A LEVEL 1 CARD

(By clicking on the card below.  After you all answer and restate the other persons answer accurately click:  “Next”)

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LEVEL 2 INSTRUCTIONS

After following the instructions in Level 1 the second person can now add how that message relates to something they have learned, experienced, or perhaps how that particular kernel of information relates to their view.

It is important that you build on the kernel of the message and not on your views on a particular issue.

Example:  If the question is “What is your favourite mode of transportation?” and person A tells you that it is a car, you then add your perspective to the car being the mode of transportation.  So, you would not say “I like walking”.  That is not an addition of your perspective to the kernel of the message.  Instead you might say something like “When the surroundings are bult for cars, like in many cities in the USA, then the car is also my preferred mode of transportation”.

Also, it is important that you add to it and not critique it.  So in the example above you would not say “But cars are bad for the environment.”  Look for ways in which there is something that resonates with you and focus on that when you add your perspective.

The first person listens and then responds by, in their own words, resuming what they just heard to see if it corresponds.  If the person originally relating the perspective agrees they will say “That’s it”.  Otherwise they will explain again, until the other person understands it.

If the fist person does not see how there is an added perspective, perhaps because they were given a critique or a comment on something unrelated, they will ask for a deeper explanation.  When they feel they understand the added perspective they restate it util they get a “That’s it”.

Example:  Persons A and B are interacting:

A:  Answers the question

B:  Restates clearly the message

A:  If clear: “That’s it”

B:  Adds their perspective

A:  If they see how it adds a perspective they restates the perspective

B:  If clear: “That’s it”

Just like in Level 1 you interact with each player on each card.  After you have gone through the 5 cards of Level 2 you can move onto Level 3.

PICK A LEVEL 2 CARD

(by clicking on the card below)

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LEVEL 3 INSTRUCTIONS

After following the instructions in Level 1 the second person can now add some creative insight. 

Here you may add how the kernel of the message may be further developed or perhaps used along the lines the person proposed and along the lines you find interesting.

Example:  Let us say the question is “Tell me about your experience with sleep.” and the kernel of the message is that the person falls asleep easily but wakes up after 4 hours and is anxious because they cannot go back to sleep.  Here you might this may be the perfect opportunity to meditate because you have the time and it is something that will overall lower anxiety.  So, you are creatively adding and developing something along the lines of what the other person is interested in, as well as what you are interested in (assuming you find meditation interesting in this particular case).

Again, stay clear of providing critique or talking about issues not directly related to the kernel message.

The first person listens and then responds by, in their own words, resuming what they just heard to see if it corresponds.  If the person originally relating the perspective agrees they will say “That’s it”.  Otherwise they will explain again, until the other person understands it.

Example:  Persons A and B are interacting:

A:  Answers the question

B:  Restates clearly the message

A:  If clear: “That’s it”

B:  Adds their creativity

A:  Restates the creative addition

B:  If clear: “That’s it”

After this interaction you switch roles and now you answer the question on the card.

Just like in the other levels you interact with each player on each card.  After you have gone through the five cards of Level 3 you can move onto the final level, Level 4.

PICK A LEVEL 3 CARD

(by clicking on the card below)

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LEVEL 4 INSTRUCTIONS

This is the toughest level.  The questions here will be challenging.  The key is to use all the skills you developed in the previous levels and not get drawn into judgement or hostility.

Pick five cards of Level 4 and unveil the first one.

In your one-on-one interactions let one person respond to the question on the first card in Level 4,  The other will then reiterate the key message. 

Now the first person has two tasks:

1.  The first is to say if they felt any hostility or judgement in the response. The hostility or judgement can be in the words, in the perspective, in the tone of voice, or in the manner in which the person presents the message (rolling eyes etc). 

2.  The second is if the re-iteration clearly represents their point of view. 

If the message was both correct and free of judgement and hostility then the first person will say “That’s it”.

Then you move onto adding perspective and creativity and at each stage you only agree if the message is an accurate representation of what was said, clear, and free of judgement and hostility.  You continue adding so that both add perspective and/or creativity at least twice.  If you find the conversation engaging continue with it.

Example:  Persons A and B are interacting:

A:  Answers the question

B:  Restates clearly the message

A:  If clear and judgement free: “That’s it”

B:  Adds perspective or creativity first time

A:  Restates perspective or creativity

B:  If clear and judgement free: “That’s it”

A:  Adds perspective or creativity first time

B:  Restates perspective or creativity

A:  If clear and judgement free: “That’s it”

B:  Adds perspective or creativity second time

A:  Restates perspective or creativity

B:  If clear and judgement free: “That’s it”

A:  Adds perspective or creativity second time

B:  Restates perspective or creativity

A:  If clear and judgement free: “That’s it”

Just like in all the other levels you interact with each player on each card.  After you finish the 5 cards you are ready to start interacting intellectually in a new manner with your surroundings.  

PICK A LEVEL 4 CARD

(by clicking on the card below)

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Congratulations! Try your new skills out on people in your surroundings and note what changes.

Do let me know your feedback through the contact page or @BasiasThoughts on Instagram.

Also, make sure you play “Make Sense – Heart” and “Make Sense – Senses” (once they are uploaded here), so that you can gain a deeper and more well rounded and meaningful experience in all your interactions.

Did you like the picture of the tree?  It is from awesome Unsplash.com from Fabrice Villard.